Thoughts my mind has offered me...

Over the past five (single) years!

Thoughts.

They are just things.

They have no need to be defined. Although we like to pick them up and analyse.

Our mind, this thinking machine, drawers us in with its trickery.

It calls us, convinces us to think harder, deeper, longer and to unhealthily linger there.

Soon I will celebrate five years of rediscovery. Reconnecting with self, learning more about Bel and what her heart desires. It is tough being single at 37 years of age, it’s tough being single at any age. That is, if, love and a long-term relationship is what you seek. If you know me, you know I love an adventure and the last five years have certainly been adventurous! I think I had forgotten how much I loved adventures so, no matter what my future holds, I know there will be a need to let adventure run free. If you're single too and having a read... what has it been that you have learnt you need? Over the past five years, I have met some amazing men, experienced euphoric moments and delved deep into what it means (to me) to find true love. I have learnt that perhaps what Hollywood displays as a fairy-tale love story can be far from the truth. I have learnt that I truly value the admiration that I have for the lovers in my life, and the work they put it in to keeping their love alive. I have learnt that finding the one isn't just about aligning values and chemistry. It is about being and finding someone else that is willing to be emotionally available, have similar future dreams, be prepared to allow you to explore your wants and needs, while still prioritising their own. It's about timing, vulnerability, risk, passion, and things I can't explain. You know what, I am still learning about love and at the same time I am learning so much about me! I am still grasping and practising patience, knowing that, knowing what I want is necessary, however I still need to craft a beautiful balance of knowing and flexibility, for me this means to exploring without expectation. I still have to check-in and just see if the man I am wanting, wants me for me, or just the idea of me. On this lengthy journey my friends tell me it is because I haven’t met the right one yet, or maybe the universe has something bigger in store for me. But ultimately, I have learnt that finding true love and the right person to share your life with, is what happens when one million plus one, moons AND stars align… all at the same time.

To the thoughts that float on by in my mind, I try not to define. They are not good nor bad, I just acknowledge that they appear there. Some thoughts I might pick up and play with for a while, others I just allow to float on by!

I wrote a list of these thoughts down in my journal, while I travelling last week. I thought I would share them, because I know I am not alone. I know there is hope out there and if you read and resonate with what I share, let me know, and feel free to share. Perhaps they inspire some journaled thoughts of your own or my hope is that just one person reads and feels seen. Because yes, "Helllo, I see you there!" xo